Mood: Ecstatic
Music: Cameo “Back & Forth” CD 20th Century Masters
The last few days have been a Whirlwind!!! As usual my life moves @ Warp Speed even when I sit down & try 2 B “Peace Be Still Myself!!!” But you know what??? That’s what drives me & makes me who I am. I always love 2 say that if I followed my own great advice I would be so much further along in my life.
I have that Classic Procrastinator Gene married to that Classic Sagittarian Attitude. As Sag’s we live life 2 the fullest with total disregard 4 “Rhyme Or Reason” as we are here 4 the journey as opposed 2 plotting & laying down a path of Greatness!!!
We tend 2 put ourselves in places that allow us 2 succeed in spite of ourselves @ times. We’re blessed with charm, wit, IQ, & a reckless passion 4 life that would probably kill other folks. If we sat back & really put it all 2gether, We’d B Amazing!!! A few of us can do that & will do so…
But speaking personally 4 myself, I think my greatness is in the people I infect around me with my krazy antics. I walk the planet secure in who I am, comfortable in my own skin, & relatively happy because life is way 2 fun 2 walk around suicidal & depressed.
This Y2K time we are cruising through is a wonderful time 2 B alive. Trust me. Matter of fact I am tying this entry on my Brand Spanking New Dell Studio 17 Laptop. Talk about a far cry from my 1st efforts @ PC’ing. I had an old Compaq or Hewlett Packard that had the dual floppies. Remember the standard 3.5 that we all knew & loved that has now went the way of the $2 bill. Well my 1st PC had that big ole 5 ¼ floppy drive too. & remember…, those were really floppy drives… The little one was actually hard… PHEW!!!
But I am wireless, the processor speeds are incredible, the hard drive space is humongous, & the screens rival your Flat Screen TV’s. What a wonderful, wonderful world we are living in huh??? & you want me 2 walk around negative??? It’s not going 2 happen in this lifetime.
I’ve got a play 2 attend 2day, the weather is probably going to reach 90, summer is slowly on the way, music shows are coming, vacation time is coming, & everything is going 2 B alright. The Leadership Newark Gala this past Wednesday was Xcellent. Our class represented hard as we rolled in the door about 20 deep.
The NBA playoffs are flying along, the Yankees are already killing me, & the NFL draft is slowly winding down. NY Giants made some minor noise…, but the NY Jets pulled a coup by trading up with Cleveland in the #5 slot & snatching up USC’s Mark Sanchez. Is he the “Real Deal???” No one knows…, but the possibilities are intriguing.
So hold down the fort as I just got my Joel on & it’s time 2 run out & go get the daggone Sunday paper. As much as some things change…, some things truly, truly, truly remain the same. ONE!
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Sunday, April 19, 2009
The Conflict Diaries!!!
Mood: Upbeat
Music: Marcus Miller "Milky Way" Marcus CD
2day’s Message: A Good Manager Doesn’t Try To Eliminate Conflict; He Tries To Keep It From Wasting The Energies Of His People. If You’re The Boss & Your People Fight You Openly When They Think You Are Wrong, That’s Healthy. Robert Townsend
What a powerful message. I totally agree with this message because I’ve always said that I’ve never ever wanted a bunch of “Yes Men” around me. If people are afraid 2 confront me, then they all believe that AJ is the smartest person in the room & he has ALL the answers. & we all know “That’s Not Right!!!” I just have “MOST” of the answers. ROFLMAO!!!
A little confrontation is always healthy. I personally thrive on it because it’s a lot like competition. Nothing fuels your NRG like being under pressure 2 produce. When you compete against others in sports, work, or charitable causes…, it will feed your adrenaline. It makes no sense 4 any of us 2 stand pat in life & NJoy a life filled with “Status Quo.” We need 2 make sure we continually get better each & every day even if it’s in small increments. I don’t want 2 B where I was yesterday…, I Want 2 B Better!!!
I’ve also raised my own children not to be afraid of Conflict. I told them it gives them a chance 2 sharpen their skills as they learn 2 argue from a position of strength & power as opposed 2 weakness & being dictated to. When you lay down your theories in an organized & cohesive manner it allows your opponents 2 C your vision. If your case is sound through & through…, game, set, & match. Nothing else needs 2 b discussed…
If you come @ people all sideways or all discombobulated…, they will pick your argument apart like taking meat off some spare ribs. It is okay for things 2 get just a tad heated. As long as we remain respectful, respectable, & keep our hands & feet to ourselves It’s All Good!!! Cause the minute you come @ me physically ALL BETS R OFF!!! WE SCRAPPING NOW!!! & I DO NOT FIGHT FAIR!!! I’m Seriously Trying 2 TAKE YOU OUT!!! KA-POW!!!
The line that works the best is that “We Need 2 Learn 2 Respectfully Disagree!!!” When we reach a stalemate where neither side will bend. We need 2 regroup, go back 2 our respective corners, work on our arguments again, so they can be re-presented. One side will have 2 bend because even in a Win-Win situation… Somebody comes out just a tad shorter than the other. & I Play 2 Win All The Tyme!!! LOL!!!
In the business world we seem 2 work much better under conflict than we do in our personal lives. The #1 reason for this is because in our personal lives we definitely seem 2 “Take Conflict Personally!!!” Sometimes we need 2 let go & just understand it’s simply a conflict & we can battle intelligently within the rules of the conflict.
1nce we cross that line & seriously begin 2 attack each other. The die is cast, the damage is done, & it’s a whole ‘nother animal. Sometimes the wounds we inflict can only be healed by the hands of time. & most of us won’t be able 2 stick around long enuff 4 that 2 happen. The wounds we inflict go so deep & hurt so bad that the only possible solution is 2 simply Pack Your Things & Go!!!
So re-read the above message & decide how you will handle conflict in your life. Conflict is a necessary part of life & you see it in Mother Nature every day. Without conflict there would be no progress. It’s because of conflict that we have had progress. Those in charge would’ve never relented & let the slaves go free. They were happy with the situation. We needed 2 rise up & cause a ruckus so they could simply, “Let My People Go!!!” The Brother AJ
Music: Marcus Miller "Milky Way" Marcus CD
2day’s Message: A Good Manager Doesn’t Try To Eliminate Conflict; He Tries To Keep It From Wasting The Energies Of His People. If You’re The Boss & Your People Fight You Openly When They Think You Are Wrong, That’s Healthy. Robert Townsend
What a powerful message. I totally agree with this message because I’ve always said that I’ve never ever wanted a bunch of “Yes Men” around me. If people are afraid 2 confront me, then they all believe that AJ is the smartest person in the room & he has ALL the answers. & we all know “That’s Not Right!!!” I just have “MOST” of the answers. ROFLMAO!!!
A little confrontation is always healthy. I personally thrive on it because it’s a lot like competition. Nothing fuels your NRG like being under pressure 2 produce. When you compete against others in sports, work, or charitable causes…, it will feed your adrenaline. It makes no sense 4 any of us 2 stand pat in life & NJoy a life filled with “Status Quo.” We need 2 make sure we continually get better each & every day even if it’s in small increments. I don’t want 2 B where I was yesterday…, I Want 2 B Better!!!
I’ve also raised my own children not to be afraid of Conflict. I told them it gives them a chance 2 sharpen their skills as they learn 2 argue from a position of strength & power as opposed 2 weakness & being dictated to. When you lay down your theories in an organized & cohesive manner it allows your opponents 2 C your vision. If your case is sound through & through…, game, set, & match. Nothing else needs 2 b discussed…
If you come @ people all sideways or all discombobulated…, they will pick your argument apart like taking meat off some spare ribs. It is okay for things 2 get just a tad heated. As long as we remain respectful, respectable, & keep our hands & feet to ourselves It’s All Good!!! Cause the minute you come @ me physically ALL BETS R OFF!!! WE SCRAPPING NOW!!! & I DO NOT FIGHT FAIR!!! I’m Seriously Trying 2 TAKE YOU OUT!!! KA-POW!!!
The line that works the best is that “We Need 2 Learn 2 Respectfully Disagree!!!” When we reach a stalemate where neither side will bend. We need 2 regroup, go back 2 our respective corners, work on our arguments again, so they can be re-presented. One side will have 2 bend because even in a Win-Win situation… Somebody comes out just a tad shorter than the other. & I Play 2 Win All The Tyme!!! LOL!!!
In the business world we seem 2 work much better under conflict than we do in our personal lives. The #1 reason for this is because in our personal lives we definitely seem 2 “Take Conflict Personally!!!” Sometimes we need 2 let go & just understand it’s simply a conflict & we can battle intelligently within the rules of the conflict.
1nce we cross that line & seriously begin 2 attack each other. The die is cast, the damage is done, & it’s a whole ‘nother animal. Sometimes the wounds we inflict can only be healed by the hands of time. & most of us won’t be able 2 stick around long enuff 4 that 2 happen. The wounds we inflict go so deep & hurt so bad that the only possible solution is 2 simply Pack Your Things & Go!!!
So re-read the above message & decide how you will handle conflict in your life. Conflict is a necessary part of life & you see it in Mother Nature every day. Without conflict there would be no progress. It’s because of conflict that we have had progress. Those in charge would’ve never relented & let the slaves go free. They were happy with the situation. We needed 2 rise up & cause a ruckus so they could simply, “Let My People Go!!!” The Brother AJ
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